Soul Mates

Been reading Eat, Pray, Love by ELizabeth Gilbert

I love reading autobiographical works, even if its ficion but written by a character that freely expresses themself. This book is not fictious but very sincere as Liz writes about herself and her quest.

There was a segment during her quest in India that she had a conversation with a new friend about soul mates. Here is what Richard had to say about soul mates:

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to revel another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it."

Why I have still felt unsettled. I really truly thought that once you really loved someone with or without marriage you bonded and commited to each other forever. That no matter what, mistakes, harships, you worked it out together. Guess what? To many this is no surprise at all, it just does not work out that way. It is not in anyone's best interest to ever stay commited for the sake of staying commited. Of course individual cases I never thought that someone should stay with someone yet in my head I still held on to this romanticized thought. Now I realize the same holds true for me, somehow I was to be an exception to this rule. The beauty of it though is this, I will not say it cannot happen - oh no. But I am all too aware of the possibilty it will not always be and will love just the same. This is even greater. Because now there is nothing settling about it. I am choosing the here and now with you and this may or may not bring another day and that is what will always keep up close or will have us grow our seperate ways. What is important is that living each day you will see what it is for what it is and that hopefully nothing will ever be dragged... I do not want to be happily "settled" ever. I want happy now, always :) Of course what I really want and know what I have is the ability to feel always. Numbness, distance, is an undesired state I have felt. Now is the feeling time, for better, for worse ;) with or without a soul mate.

Keep on living, eatting, praying, and loving!