Advice interpretation

"A New Relationship Will Fix Everything - Women and men alike sometimes think that all they need is a good relationship and their lives will be complete. This is a mistake. You should never think that way. You don't need a guy in your life to be complete or to validate your existence as a person. A good relationship is supposed to enhance your already great life, not be the linch pin that makes or breaks it. Before you head out on the dating scene, make sure you've gotten over your last relationship, are sure that you know what you want in a new relationship and have taken a long hard look at yourself and the areas of your life you need to improve."

A little advice from the empowerment section of dontdatehimgirl.com

My thoughts, yes of course! so true!
What was a major mistake I did before? Well he was my life! I did everything for him, all my free time was with him! Rookie mistake, first love, it was blind. Now what? I'm sooo bored, I really do kinda wanna just throw someone in the mix to kill time with, but dating is not meant to be a hobby, its really not supposed to be a game. I get it, I don't want to be one of those girls! And yet here I am! So I still need to make myself whole but really feel that deep down I won't be until I meet, drum role please, the one. The trick is to be whole but then feel even more amazing when you do meet him. Uh-huh that's right, just stay focused on you, your life, and he will come along when you're not looking, but oh you need to keep your eyes open or duh you'll like totally miss him when he does come your way. 4 months is still not a lot of time, especially after years with the ex so I know I have not given myself much time at all and I really need to chill. I get it, but I am still upset and dumbfounded that what happened to me is for real. And I know I deserve better so I still don't get why I have to be the one to wait. Oh that's right, life is not fair.
The last three years I was soooo super busy...working full time, going to grad school at night, weekends with the ex, and somehow doing all my coursework in there and maintaining a pretty gosh darn good gpa. My new favorite thing to do - NOTHING!!! maybe some tv, maybe a nap, maybe a movie, how about just listening to some music! ahhh. I love it! but then what happens, over active brain steps in, which is what happens when you exercise your brain and no other muscle of your body, like ever. So I am perfectly content doing nothing with myself, so I guess I just need to become happy doing something by myself as well and I will be complete as me. yes. me. (that's for you Jessica Darling) *sigh* way past my bed time, till next time! ttfn